Our current cultures teach us to avoid pain and discomfort. Speaking about what’s wrong in the world, our relationships and lives and the pain, frustration, anger and even despair we feel are considered unhealthy, not socially appropriated and a sort of illness that needs to be avoided.
We are taught to leave relationships, homes, jobs and groups whenever conflict or difficulties arise. We are taught to take painkillers at the smallest discomfort and pain inn our bodies or souls.
We are not even allowed to be bored: there are thousands of things out there to keep us busy and entertained.
At the least sign of pain (emotional or otherwise) we are brainwashed to hide it, fix it, avoid it: we are taught to always be positive and see the bright side. Conflicted and complex, sick or traumatized people are seen as “toxic” and we are told to leave them behind…”everyone for themselves” is what our culture proposes: we have human rights and individual freedom above anything else, even above Life and Life sustaining systems.
Accepting and honouring the many ways we feel pain, frustration, anger, sadness or despair for what is going on in the world is not only healthy and natural, it is also healing and necessary for us to move and actually do something.
Avoiding any of these emotions is actually a privilege few have: those who can hide themselves from what’s going on, go shopping instead, run away from conflict by removing themselves from relationships, groups or places and those who have the luxury to turn off the issues by turning off a device or going to a retreat are privileged because they have a choice. They are also oppressive, because they leave these things unsolved and for others to fend for themselves.
I will be posting a lot about my own struggles with this phase of the spiral, but here I want to list the main issues for which I feel deep pain, anger, sadness or despair: